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Relational Resilience and the Alchemy of Presence

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From Self to System:

Relational Resilience and the Alchemy of Presence

In many professional environments resilience is still framed as an individual capacity: the ability to cope, endure, and keep going under pressure. Yet this framing is increasingly insufficient. Burnout, relational breakdown, and systemic strain point to a deeper truth: resilience is not only personal, it is relational. It lives in the quality of connection we are able to sustain – with ourselves, with others, and within the systems we are part of.

At the heart of relational resilience lies a subtle but powerful human experience: the moment connection shifts. Most people recognise it. You begin present, open, and engaged with another person. Then something changes: a tone, a comment, or even an internal association and the connection collapses. You find yourself no longer with the other, but inside your own reactions: defending, judging, withdrawing, or shutting down.

From Presence to Absence and Back Again

Otto Scharmer describes this movement as a shift from presencing to absencing. In a state of presencing, we are open, attuned, and responsive to what is emerging in the moment. In absencing, we become trapped in habitual patterns shaped by past experience. Our perception narrows, and our capacity to relate diminishes.

Understanding this shift is key to developing relational resilience. Absencing is not a failure; it is a natural, embodied response to perceived threat or discomfort. It is often driven by what Scharmer calls the three “voices of resistance”: the Voice of Judgment, which closes the mind through over-analysis; the Voice of Cynicism, which closes the heart through emotional distancing; and the Voice of Fear, which closes the will through anxiety or avoidance. These voices can arise quickly and subtly, often before we are consciously aware of them.

What makes relational resilience possible is the ability to recognise these micro-moments as they arise, and to work with them rather than be overtaken by them.

Relational Presence to Remain Aware and Connected

This is where the concept of relational presence becomes essential. Relational presence is not the absence of reaction, but the capacity to remain aware and connected within it. It is the ability to notice, “Something in me is tightening,” without immediately acting from that contraction. It creates a space between stimulus and response, where choice becomes possible.

Developing this capacity requires a shift from passive to active sensing of our bodily responses. Passive sensing is when we are immersed in our reactions without awareness. Active sensing, by contrast, involves turning attention toward the body and its signals and bringing them into conscious awareness: tuning in to breath, tension, posture, impulse. Body-based practices support this process by helping individuals engage directly with their lived, embodied experience, rather than only with thoughts about it.

Through this kind of awareness, the very reactions that pull us out of connection can become sources of information.

A tightening in the chest may signal a boundary being crossed; a surge of irritation may point to an unmet need or value. When met with curiosity rather than suppression, these responses become guides rather than obstacles.

Scharmer’s “opening process” offers a further pathway for moving from absencing back into presence. This involves three key gestures: suspending habitual judgments, redirecting attention inward to one’s own experience, and letting go of fixed expectations or outcomes. Together, these shifts create the conditions for a more responsive, less reactive way of engaging with others.

Staying Engaged within Tension, Difference or Misunderstanding

Relational resilience expands beyond the individual into the interpersonal and collective domains. In relationships, it shows up as the ability to stay engaged even when there is tension, difference, or misunderstanding. It allows for repair after rupture, and for dialogue even when there is polarisation. In teams and organisations, it contributes to cultures of psychological safety, trust, and shared responsibility, conditions that are essential for sustainable performance and wellbeing.

Importantly, relational resilience does not eliminate difficulty. Instead, it changes our relationship to it. Breakdowns in connection are no longer endpoints, but opportunities to return to awareness, to deepen understanding, and to strengthen the relational field.

In this sense, resilience is something to practice. It is cultivated moment by moment, in our capacity to notice when the “switch” has occurred and to consciously find our way back. From this perspective, the journey from self to system is not a linear progression, but a continuous movement between inner awareness and outer connection.

Ultimately, relational resilience invites a shift in orientation: from managing ourselves in isolation to participating consciously in relational networks that shape our lives and work. It is here, in the space between self and other, that more responsive, humane, and resilient systems begin to emerge.


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Empathy and ESG for Lasting Benefit to People and Planet

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The Future of ESG Is Relational

Empathy, Wellbeing and Collective Responsibility

ESG is increasingly being tested not only in boardrooms and policy frameworks, but in the lived reality of everyday work. As organizations navigate growing pressures around sustainability, they are also contending with a parallel challenge inside the workplace itself: rising levels of burnout, mental health strain, and a general erosion of human resilience. These internal dynamics are no longer separate from ESG priorities, they are central to them. If sustainability is to be truly meaningful and lasting, it must include the sustainability of people: their capacity to remain well, connected, and engaged in environments that are increasingly complex, hybrid, and demanding.

Adopting ESG principles means that organizational strategy is guided by three interconnected pillars: environmental, social, and governance considerations. ESG places emphasis on creating lasting benefit and making a positive contribution to society and the planet.

These principles establish standards for organizational behavior, policy, and accountability, while also providing measurable indicators used to evaluate sustainability and long-term impact.

ESG for Lasting Benefit to Society and Planet

ESG offers stakeholders a framework for understanding how organizations manage risks and opportunities related to environmental, social, and governance concerns. Ultimately, it is about creating practical, actionable strategies that generate lasting value for both society and business.

As of mid-2026, however, the global ESG landscape is itself undergoing significant change. Voluntary, marketing-driven initiatives are increasingly shifting toward mandatory, data-driven compliance frameworks. At the same time, a stark divide has emerged between more stringent European and Asian regulatory approaches and the political backlash against ESG seen in parts of the United States.

In response, many organizations are rebranding or moving away from the term “ESG” altogether due to political controversy and concerns about greenwashing. Terms such as “responsible business,” “sustainability strategy,” or more specific impact metrics are increasingly being used instead. Yet despite these shifts in language, the underlying practices and concerns remain highly relevant. Organizations are still being called upon to demonstrate meaningful social and environmental accountability, transparency, and long-term stewardship.

In this context, empathy offers something important: a way to ensure that sustainability efforts remain connected to lived human experience rather than becoming purely compliance-driven exercises.

In the following sections, I explore a few of the many ways empathy can support social cohesion within ESG practice, particularly within the social and environmental dimensions.

Empathy and the Social Dimension

The social pillar of ESG is perhaps the most obvious starting point for the application of empathy.

This dimension focuses on the human aspects of organizations: the relationships people have with themselves, with one another, and with the communities around them. It includes both internal and external stakeholders.

Many of the issues addressed within this dimension are directly supported by empathic principles and practices. One way to strengthen employee wellbeing and build meaningful connection, for example, is through the cultivation of empathic behaviors. Interestingly, empathy benefits both the giver and the receiver.

Imaginative empathy is particularly relevant to issues of equity, diversity, and inclusion. It involves taking an “imagine-other” perspective in order to better understand the lived experience of another person.

In an increasingly polarized world, empathy offers a pathway toward mutual acknowledgement, understanding, and respect for differing perspectives. When empathy is left to chance, people are more likely to empathize only with those who resemble themselves, while projecting assumptions onto those perceived as different. Yet empathy is not fixed; it is a trainable capacity that can help overcome in-group and out-group dynamics.

Empathy and the Environmental Dimension

Traditionally, the environmental pillar of ESG evaluates how organizations act as stewards of the natural world. This includes how companies use resources, manage waste, and understand their broader environmental impact.

However, when considering sustainable social cohesion, it is equally important to consider how people within organizations experience and relate to environmental policies. In this sense, a feedback loop exists between empathy and ESG.

When policymakers apply empathy in the design of ESG strategies, they are better able to create policies that genuinely reflect the experiences, concerns, and values of stakeholders. Listening to and understanding multiple perspectives helps bring people into meaningful participation with environmental initiatives rather than positioning them as passive recipients of policy decisions.

Environmental issues are also closely tied to personal values. Ensuring alignment between organizational policies and stakeholder values can strengthen both engagement and wellbeing (Branson, 2008).

Empathy and the Physical Space

The physical spaces in which people work are another important consideration at the intersection of the environmental and social dimensions.

Human beings have a lived, embodied experience of space, and this experience affects wellbeing. Researchers have increasingly explored the relationship between the built environment and emotional states, behavior, physical wellbeing, and social interaction.

Although the field is still emerging, studies in neuroarchitecture have already highlighted meaningful connections. One review examining the effects of neuroarchitecture on human wellbeing identified impacts across emotional, physiological, psychological, and cognitive dimensions (Assem, Khodier & Fathy, 2023). Interestingly, certain design elements, such as natural textures like wood , were shown to reduce heart rate and stress responses, even when participants were not consciously aware of these effects.

Empathy can therefore be applied both in researching user needs and in designing spaces that support wellbeing, connection, and psychological safety. Each of the five dimensions of integrative empathy offers useful insight into how environments can be designed to foster presence, listening, collaboration, and mutual understanding.

Empathy with the Natural World

Empathy can also extend beyond interpersonal relationships to include the natural world itself. Organizations such as the Organization for Networks of Empathy explore how empathy can be cultivated not only toward people, but also toward non-human life and even objects within museum and environmental education contexts. Both the Seattle Aquarium,and Two Oceans Aquarium, for example, uses empathy-based approaches to educate visitors about aquatic life and environmental stewardship.

In this way, empathy becomes a valuable tool for understanding environmental impact, designing human-centered environmental policies, and helping stakeholders meaningfully engage with sustainability initiatives.

Toward a Culture of Empathy

A culture of empathy contributes to social cohesion on many levels. As a set of principles, empathy can be integrated into organizational policies. As a process, it can underpin organizational routines. As a daily practice, it shapes how people engage with and relate to one another.

Perhaps most importantly, empathy helps soften rigid top-down structures and creates bridges across silos. In collaborative, multi-disciplinary, and transdisciplinary environments, cultivating a culture that empowers people to care for their own wellbeing while also listening to, understanding, valuing, and integrating the perspectives of others is essential.

In a fragmented and rapidly changing world of work, empathy may no longer be a peripheral “soft skill.” It may instead be one of the foundational capacities needed to build resilient organizations, sustainable workplaces, and healthier societies.

 

Assem, H. M., Khodeir, L. M., & Fathy, F. (2023). Designing for human wellbeing: the integration of neuroarchitecture in design–a systematic review. Ain Shams Engineering Journal, 102102.

Branson, C. M. (2008). Achieving organisational change through values alignment. Journal of Educational Administration46(3), 376-395.

Martingano, A. J., & Konrath, S. (2022). How cognitive and emotional empathy relate to rational thinking: empirical evidence and meta-analysis. The Journal of Social Psychology162(1), 143-160.


Empathy in Design: From Mindset to Practice

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Empathy in Design: From Mindset to Practice

Design thinking offers hope, and holds promise, for designing significant change. In a world fraught with misunderstanding and habitual polarization, innovation leading in the direction of a more humane world is tempting.

Empathy is one of seven key mindsets described by Ideo to guide human-centred design. By putting yourself in the shoes of the person you are designing for and understanding their lives, you will be better equipped to design innovative solutions to their challenges. 

Yes indeed, empathy as a mindset is essential. But how do you ensure that it doesn’t just stay there in the back of your mind? How do you ensure that it guides your intentions and moves your actions? 

While much is written about empathy in design, people struggle to find actual instruction on how to do it in a meaningful way. In this blog we introduce Integrative Empathy as a science-informed practice with actionable and verifiable tools. When applied in design it deepens innovation and enables creative teamwork.

Integrative empathy is practised throughout the design process

The application of empathy is useful throughout the design process. When applied skilfully it provides universal capacities to guide all interpersonal interactions. 

Empathy is explicitly advocated for researching user needs in most design traditions, and is frequently used interchangeably to describe the research or inquiry phase of the design process. As a mindset and practice, it’s application is just as important to create and maintain a multidisciplinary design team, as well as to check-in while ideating and implementing prototypes.

Integrative empathy is a five-layered practice:

Self-empathy

All empathy starts with self-empathy. In Integrative empathy we recognize that without first noticing, recognizing and working with self, you are likely to confuse what you notice in others with your own biases and preconceptions. 

In self-empathy the empathizer directs their attention to their own inner experience with the intention to gain awareness and understanding of their ongoing inner state. This brings self-awareness to thoughts and feelings as well as personal assumptions and opinions. It also aids the suspension of judgment. It helps to distinguish the experiences of self and other and to avoid common pitfalls of directing towards a preconceived outcome. 

Be comfortable with emotions

In Self-empathy you learn to be comfortable with the expression of emotions while maintaining neutral emotionality yourself.  

Notice, recognize and work with bias

Biases and assumptions will determine outcomes if not explicitly addressed. Designers readily bring awareness to common biases. But those involving personal anxieties are insidious and more likely to be overlooked. Doubt about one’s performance, confirmation bias, and anxiety about time constraints are commonly observed to cause a designer to direct outcomes. The practice of self-empathy, as an on-going habit, helps guard against 

Connecting with Kinesthetic empathy 

Kinesthetic empathy helps you to connect with others and brings awareness of how people influence each other. It is the capacity to participate in somebody’s movement, or sensory experience of thought or emotion, in the shape of movement.  

This is where empathy is so much more than a mindset or mental process. While thought about with the mind, it is experienced and expressed with the body, specifically in the muscles, heart and nervous system[1]. Kinesthetic empathy applies embodiment practice to connect to and embody previously unknown client experiences and sensations. It also  refines self-other differentiation, a sense of where the self stops, and the other starts.

Observe subtleties in immersions

In Kinesthetic empathy you learn observation skills. You become more aware of other’s movements or sensory experiences as they express them through their body language and movement. This is an essential skill when immersing yourselves in their world.

Create cohesive teams

We see so many projects flounder due to subtle undermining group dynamics. The early signs are often visible in subtle movements, but overlooked until they become overt and challenging. In kinesthetic empathy you learn how to create group cohesion using physicality rather than thought.

Building Understanding with Reflective empathy 

Reflective empathy is applied to clarify problems and create mutual understanding through literal and advanced empathic listening. Truly hearing what another person means through what they say is more than directing one’s ears toward them. 

Empathic listening requires attentively leaning in to the other, with a willingness to be changed by what one hears. It requires directing full attention toward all that the speaker is saying, gesturing and implying. Skilfully practising both literal and advanced empathic listening is applied in interviews and team sessions to help facilitate the speaker to connect to and articulate from deeper consciousness. 

Gain insights in interviews

We frequently hear instructions to ask open ended questions in interviews. However, we advise no questions! Any question is leading. Instead try inviting thoughts, feelings and experiences about a particular topic. Then reflect back what you hear. When your interviewee hears you reflect back what they said, they will notice and fill in the gaps themselves. They will also be encouraged to go deeper. 

Build multi-disciplinary teams

Habitual power dynamics and conflicts of interest form in interpersonal interaction, unless addressed. Compromised interpersonal dynamics are common in teams and also observed amongst stakeholders and between researchers and users.Team members tend to listen without actively hearing what others are saying.

In Reflective empathy you learn skills of empathic listening and how to help individuals or groups to create a container for self-expression of all its members.

Diversifying perspectives with Imaginative empathy

Imaginative empathy uses imagination and ‘as-if’ acting to gain an experience of the perspectives of others. It provides designers with an experience of the effects of exploring a problem from multiple perspectives. 

Design empathy is described as being ‘sensitive to another person’s feelings and thoughts without having had the same experience’.  When empathizing, one often asks the question: “How would I experience this person’s situation?” One needs to be cautious of this ‘imagine-self’ perspective. It does not necessarily provide valuable insights into the experiences of others. 

The real empathic question is “What is it like for the other to be in their situation?” This is an ‘imagine-other’ perspective and when fully embodied through guided ‘as-if’ acting, aids innovation in empathy maps and personas and provides a check to the limits of one’s empathic accuracy[2].

Learn to recognize, understand and embrace multiple perspectives

In Imaginative empathy you learn skills to understand, acknowledge the value of and encourage diversity. This includes skills to suspend judgment and encourage others free from your own projections, values, norms and opinions.

Gather insights with Empathic Creativity

Empathic creativity gathers insights into a guide-to-action. Empathic creativity is a direct result of the previous empathic practices. At any time during the design process, the designer can identify significant moments of insight. ‘Significant’ because they are particularly intense, meaningful and memorable. They signify the moment when one realizes something is important. They spur empathic action: they energize people to pick up on what is happening and follow through, enabling designers to identify important data for prototyping and keep everyone on board during the design process.

In Empathic creativity you learn to discern significant insights, learnings and moments to integrate into the design process.

 

We offer Online Integrative Empathy for Design Workshops. Online from anywhere in the world, we will guide you through 5 layers of empathy and coach you to apply the skills in your specific design challenge.

 

[1] Schmidsberger, F., & Löffler-Stastka, H. (2018). Empathy is proprioceptive: the bodily fundament of empathy – a philosophical contribution to medical education. BMC medical education, 18(1), 69. doi:10.1186/s12909-018-1161-y

[2] Ma-Kellams, C, & Lerner, J. (2016). Trust your gut or think carefully? Examining whether an intuitive, versus a systematic, mode of thought produces greater empathic accuracy. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 111.5: 674.

 


Sensing Senseless in Online Meetings? This Will Help

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Sensing Senseless in Online Meetings?

This Will Help

How do you build rapport in online meetings? Your business requires you to interact, understand and connect with others. You’ve mastered reading their body language. You notice how they enter your space, or welcome you into theirs. To survive lockdown you had to transfer your business online. You downloaded Zoom, chose yet another password and took a tech crash course, yet still struggle to build rapport online.

The success of a meeting is not only measurable by its actionable outcomes. Many of us feel drained after online meetings. Something is missing. We believe that meaningful personal contact with your coworkers or clients is the key. This article describes how to connect with and understand others in online meetings.

Using your senses face-to-face

You spent a big part of your life learning to connect with and understand others. You apply and integrate multiple senses to pick up face-to-face cues about people’s attitudes, but most of this happens without you noticing it.

Sight and hearing are our dominant senses and the most obvious when building rapport. What you might not be aware of is how much you listen for cues about attitudes and scan faces and bodies for ‘body-language’. 

You also use your sense of smell. Some years ago, I connected with a teenager living in a care home after having lived on the street. I offered to take some friends to visit him when he was admitted to hospital. A group of teenagers arrived at my car, rowdy and aggressive. One friend asked why I was afraid – saying she could smell my fear. 

Research suggests that we give greater emphasis to non-verbal than verbal cues. Even more so when we sense a contradiction between the non-verbal and the verbal.

Rapport in online meetings is not the same

The online environment changes how you build rapport with others. As a result, you might come away from online meetings feeling exhausted, dissatisfied, lonely and misunderstood. 

Smell definitely becomes obsolete. Sight is fortunately in action, but depending on tech quality and screen size, is changed. In face-to-face interaction hands, arms and legs express magnitudes about attitudes. Picking up on those expressions leads to a subtle dance of coordinated bodily communication. But in online meetings you probably see only the face, neck and shoulders, providing less than half the usual visual cues. 

Picture clarity is also restricted. Even on a high def screen you may have limited access to facial expressions. Your sense of hearing might be challenged. For instance, time lag from poor internet reception will influence the flow of conversation.

At first we might consider ditching zoom meetings because of these limitations. But online interactions are not going away. The benefits of reduced long distance travel are great: the environment, families and time pressures, to name a few. And besides, this rush to online meetings is sudden, and unprepared. New skills take time and practice.

But all is not lost…

With the following tips, you can make sure to use the fullness of your senses to connect online. 

  • Recognise how your senses influence your ability to communicate. 
  • Don’t take connection for granted. 
  • Do something specific to connect and understand. 
  • Acknowledge that the mind and the body through which it is expressed are inseparable.
  • Remember understanding is a two-way thing.

How to send the message you want 

Attitude counts as much as, if not more than knowledge. The mind is present in and through the body. Hence, attitudes experienced in your mind are expressed through gesture, posture and tone of voice. 

In this way micro expressions flit across your face, giving hints of your inner experience to others. Therefore, to understand another, and they you, ensure that you set up your camera to show your face and a portion of your upper body. Ensure that the light source shows your face to best effect, and request that the people you meet with do the same. Don’t hide yourself by staying a meter and a half away from your camera, be willing to lean in by showing others your face. Also listen to how your voice comes across online. When you are too close to the microphone it distorts the voice, making it sharp to listen to.  

Facial expressions might communicate attitudes you would rather keep to yourself. To send the message you want requires you to be aware of how your attitude reflects in your gesture and tone of voice. Self-empathy is a useful practice to bring awareness to your experiences, thoughts and feelings. In self-empathy we sense into our own wellbeing, body position and movement to know our inner world.

How to build rapport in online meetings

Mutual understanding is something to cultivate. Here are a few of the techniques we apply in Empathic Intervision.

Active Sensing. Much of day-to-day sensing happens passively. An impression imprints itself on our sense organ, but we do not notice it. We can however sense actively, by acknowledging the importance of gestures, facial expressions and tone of voice.

Connecting with kinesthetic empathy. With self-empathy we become aware of our inner world through our bodily experiences and corresponding gesture or movement. To share the  gestures or movements with each other online and then move in synchrony, we share how we show up to a meeting and create a new connection.

Empathic listening. Empathic listening applies more than just your sense of hearing to understand another person. A sense of hearing picks up the vibrational quality of sound. Within that we also sense a thought or concept through the choice of words and intonation and a tone and meaning which might be sharp or harsh or soft and gentle. Furthermore, meaning is conveyed through emphasis, or lack thereof, placed on words. Being alert to tone and meaning, we gain an impression of the inner experience and attitude of someone.

We also sense the being of the other person. Are they present? Or distracted? Perhaps enthusiastic, bored or frustrated? What does this tell us about how connected we are or whether they feel understood?

You’ll be energized for the task…

When you come out of an online meeting feeling heard and having heard others, you will have actionable outcomes to work with. More important, you will have fed everyone’s need to connect, leaving you energized to continue with what is next. 

These techniques, useful to gain a more nuanced understanding of others online, are also useful to build rapport face-to-face. When we get back to relative normality post COVID-19, you might try them there too.  Please share with us your experiences and comments on @EIntervision 


Building a Story Together with Empathic Creativity

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Building a Story Together... with Empathic Creativity

The Idea

With empathic creativity, you learn to notice when something exciting happens and help each other in turning that into a story.

Inspiration

You will need:

  • A non-see-through bag
  • Ten items from your house that fit in the bag. The person who chooses the items and fills the bag doesn’t play and everyone who plays is not allowed to see what is in the bag!

Let’s play!

You can play this game with a minimum of two people, but more people is more fun!

  1. Put all the mystery items in the bag, making sure the players don’t see what they are.
  2. Take turns feeling an item in the bag and describe what you feel until you can guess what it is.
  3. When you know what it is, you can take it out of the bag and give it to the person to your right.
  4. This person starts a story: “Once upon a time, there was a …. “. You can tell anything you like, but you must make sure that the item you just got is part of the story. Don’t finish the story, this is just the beginning!
  5. Now it’s your turn to feel in the bag, describe what you feel while guessing the item and once you know what it is, pass it to the person to your right side.
  6. This person continues the story, making sure to incorporate the new item in the storyline.
  7. Continue this way until all items have been guessed and used. The last person can finish the story with the last item out of the bag.

 

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If I were You with Imaginative Empathy

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If I were You... with Imaginative Empathy

The Idea

Stepping into the shoes of somebody else helps to see the world from their perspective. With this game, you are going to literally step into someone else’s shoes.

Inspiration

You will need:

  • A favourite story or video with several characters (animals count too! If you can’t find a story, you can use the Little Prince video above).
  • Pen and paper
  • Optional: your wardrobes, to have a costume party

Let’s play!

You can do this exercise several times, changing roles every turn to try to play different perspectives.

  1. Read the story together or watch the video and note down all the characters in the story. If you have more players than characters, consider if there are objects in the story which play an important role and turn them into characters too.
  2. Let everyone choose one character they want to play, try to choose a character which is quite different from you.
  3. Before we start, have a look at your house and the clothes that are around and dress up to match your character.
  4. Everyone ready? Let’s go!
  5. Stand in a circle together and imagine what it is like to be this person/animal/object.
  6. What expression would you have with your face if you would be this person/animal/object? Make the expression and show it to each other.
  7. How would you hold your body? Your hands? Your feet? Take the body posture and show it to each other.
  8. What would this person/animal or object think? How would they feel? What would they want?
  9. Now all take one step backwards to literally step into your role. You are now your character.
  10. Re-enact the story, or make up your own, making sure to stay in your characters role.
  11. Have a little chat when your theatre play is done: what was it like to be this character? Was it difficult to play someone you are not?

 

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Mirror Mirror on the Wall with Reflective Empathy

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Mirror Mirror on the Wall... with 

Reflective Empathy

 

The Idea

Sometimes when we listen to people we only hear the things we want to hear. What we hear might be different from what they are trying to tell us. We can be a mirror to reflect what we hear, and check that we hear correctly what they are telling us.

Inspiration

You will need:

  • Just yourselves

Let’s play!

You can play this game with a minimum of two people, but more people are more fun!

  1. Let everyone sit in a circle.
  2. The person who chooses to start the game thinks up a very short story.
  3. They turn to their right and whisper the story in the person’s ear.
  4. The listening person takes a moment to think about what they heard, then turns to their right and whispers the story they heard in the ear of the next person.
  5. Repeat this process until the last person whispers the story they heard in the ear of the person who started.
  6. The starting person tells the original story to the group and also the story as it was retold in the group.
  7. It can be very funny when the story is changed as in Broken down Telephone. But it is also important to learn to keep the story true. You might like to try the game both ways.
  8. When playing the game remember that for the story to be heard correctly depends on each person both listening well and speaking simply and clearly. When the story starts out too complicated it is very difficult for people to understand, remember and tell.
  9. Have a little chat after the game. Was it difficult to understand what the other person was saying? Did you manage to remember all the things to repeat? Where did the story change?

 

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You Move I Move with Kinesthetic Empathy

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You Move I Move ... with Kinesthetic Empathy

The Idea

We understand each other much better if our bodies move together. In this exercise we are going to explore how it feels to move together.

Inspiration

I like to move it - Zumba Kids

You will need:

  • All players need to find their favourite song (or two!) to dance to and something to play it on.

Let’s play!

You can play this game either in couples or in a group.

  1. Each player takes turns: playing their favourite song for a minute and dancing to it.
  2. All other players try to mirror the dance moves of the player who’s song is playing.
  3. When the minute is over, the dancer decides whether the others have  been acting like proper mirrors.
  4. Then the next song is played and all players mirror the new dancer.
  5. When all songs are played, and you still fancy a bit more, you can either return to the same song of the first player and try a new dance, or change songs and keep going.
  6. Make sure there are plenty of drinks around, dancing makes you thirsty!

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What we feel with Self-Empathy

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What we feel with Self-Empathy

The Idea

Sometimes we feel something but we don’t really notice we do. With this exercise we are going to explore our feelings together.

Inspiration

You will need:

  • Yourselves and…
  • Some colouring pencils and paper

 

Let’s play!

  1. Sit together, not touching each other and close your eyes
  2. Let’s start by taking some deep slow breaths, exhaling slowly through your mouths.
  3. Count how long it takes you: four seconds to breath in, five seconds to breath out.
  4. Now feel inside your body: do you notice a place where the feeling is stronger?
  5. Put your hand on that place and see what it feels like
  6. Maybe the feeling has a colour? What colour do you see?
  7. Maybe the feeling has a shape? Can you make the shape with your hands?
  8. The feeling probably also has a name. What name would you give it?
  9. Open your eyes and show us what you felt: can you draw it on the paper? Don’t forget to give it the colour and the name as well!

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Let’s Play Empathy!

Let’s Play Empathy!

Being home with your children is their dream, yet to you it might feel overwhelming at times. Whether you are starting your homeschooling journey, trying to keep your children from interfering with your work duties or are just looking for some family quality time, we’ve put together some playful exercises to practise empathy with your children. We added recommended ages for the different exercises but you might find that your children add their own creativity at different ages. We’d love to hear all about it!

Let us know how you get along: @Eintervision

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What we feel… with
Self-Empathy

Exploring together what we feel and what
that feeling looks like.
(Ages 4-12)

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You Move I Move… with
Kinesthetic Empathy

The best way to connect together is when we
try to be like a mirror!
(Ages 3-16)

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Mirror Mirror on the Wall… with
Reflective Empathy

Can we repeat a message correctly?
(Ages 5-14)

IV
If I were You… with
Imaginative Empathy

Imagine what it is like to be a
frog in the rain or a lion in the desert …
(Ages 6-16)

V
Building a Story Together… with
Empathic Creativity

Collective storytelling with objects.
(Ages 5-16)